Showing posts with label Abigail. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Abigail. Show all posts

Thursday, September 22, 2011

a letter to my daughter

My Dearest Abigail,
      You. I know You.  I remember You.

My favorite time during pregnancy was at night.  After a long busy day I would lay in my bed and tune in with you, hold you and rub you and smile at you.  Very soon I could feel your little movements.  I soon realized there was not one but two of you.  I knew for sure when I felt one kick way away from the simultaneous punch.
And then Papa and I saw you on a screen.  As soon as the technician touched my tummy with her magic wand we saw two little faces bobbing around (after that you  both decided to hide and wiggle away from her probing eyes).
I will always remember the last time I felt you move around and kick me.  It was during the first few minutes of the day you passed.  And then, well I am just so sorry, so very sorry.  I don't know what happened.  I do know that birthing your small body was the most intense moment of emotional outburst I have experienced in my entire life.
Although I have missed holding your physical form outside of the womb I will remember that I know You.  I will remember You.

As Papa gazed across the valley
Abigail was your name
I gave you the name Linnaea
to remind you of your sister

Much love to you
Mama

Sunday, September 18, 2011

the twinflower


Twinflower
Linnaea borealis

This is the week I plan my third memorial. Who knew? I love my daughters so very much. I want to be able to celebrate this journey I am taking with them but that is harder than any physical feat I could describe. At least for right now. NOW I just miss them and I want them and I don't want to look for the meaning or the bright side or the message. I really don't, not NOW.
I am thinking of what to share at the memorial and then some thought dawns on me that makes me scared. What about Abigail? So much is said and thought of and even experienced with Zaria. I didn't even hold Abigail. I couldn't contemplate that as I lay in the hospital thinking of my living twin daughter in the NICU. It just didn't seem right; my intuition said it wasn't right for me. But now I think, maybe I was wrong. I still don't know how to give her the attention she deserves. Perhaps it will come as I travel through this grieving process. My little twinflower, my little Abigail Linnaea, I do love and cherish you....